Hello my darling plumkins, I only have 10 minutes to write a note on here, so I'll get to the point as fast as I can.
I was discussing with someon today why she doesn't like several people who she's known for about a year. Don't get me wrong, she used to like them, but she says they've changed beyond her recognition.
So how much can a person change, as i really deep down? Their changes are mostly mouth and no trousers, but some of their values have changed as ell, and I think that's what's gnawing her; they aren't the people she made friends with a year ago.
Apparently I've changed - more confident, I swear more, I'm even more cynical than I used to be, and I've started treating everyone initially with the same amount of respect (I used to be a real lap dog when it came to adults, no idea why). I can tell why I've changed, and I hope most of these changes are for the better, but I'm not here to judge myself, that's what society is for. But some of my values have changed too: I'm more understanding of animal testing, and I've come to the conclusion that socialism would only work if we were all Karl Marx. But I still hold some things: being polite to strangers unless they're rude to me, trying hard in exams stuff like that. If they changed, I just wouldn't be me.
So have these people lost all contact with their original defining features? None of them are less confident now, and I don't think they've grown any more bitchy (that was what year 9 was for). But how much needs to change to know something is different?
I had a friend who, for no reason at all it seemed, started changing. At first it was little habits - he started fidgetting more, he became more confident, he got funnier, fearless and more of an outgoing person. Don't get me wrong, this took about 6 months. He wore different clothes, talked more, and slowly stopped being the guy we knew and became someone similar to, but sufficiently not, my mate. We had some arguments, fell out, and i found out later on that he'd started using drugs. But it was a slow change, barely noticeable at the time, but when I thought back, I could see him changing slowly. Small things, very slowly, but enough over time to make him different.
Bah.
